When marriages end, it’s often a result of years of simmering problems and growing resentment. But that doesn’t mean that the divorce process has to be ugly. Besides the obvious benefit of not keeping your children in the middle of a war, there are plenty of other good reasons for Washington couples to try to keep things amicable.
Usually, when people think of effective communication, they think about being able to express themselves clearly. But effective communication during a divorce also means learning to listen attentively and without interrupting, trying to see things from your spouse’s perspective, and finding ways to compromise. If you can learn to communicate effectively with your spouse during the divorce process, it will set a positive tone for all of your future interactions.
Make a financial plan that works for everyone
Divorcing couples often fight about money because they have different ideas about what is fair. One person may feel like they shouldn’t have to pay any of the debts that were incurred during the marriage while the other may think that they should split everything evenly. The best way to avoid this kind of conflict is to sit down and make a financial plan that takes both of your needs into account. For instance, you may agree to sell the house and split the proceeds, or one person may buy out the other’s interest in the property.
Put your children first
If you have kids, it’s important to remember that they are the ones who will be most affected by your divorce. You don’t have to stay in a bad marriage for their sake, but it does mean that you should try to put their needs above your own during the divorce process. Make sure that you’re honest with them about what is going on, and try to keep their daily routine as unchanged as possible.
Divorce doesn’t have to be a nasty process, even if your marriage didn’t end on the best of terms. If you can communicate effectively, make a financial plan that works for everyone, and put your children first, you’ll be well on your way to having a good divorce and maybe even a friendship with your ex-spouse.